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"Cantankerous Christmas Kin: Bite Your Tongue!"

Posted on November 28, 2018

Here is an entry from the journal of a Bible College student.

I was in the college chapel looking at the order of service. When I saw who the preacher was, I groaned out loud. The middle-aged lady next to me asked me if I was alright. I replied, "It’s this preacher. He is a professor. I have him for two classes each week.  He’s the dullest man alive.  He’s utterly boring."


The woman looked at me and said, "Do you know who I am?" I looked at her and told I didn’t recognize her. "Well," said the woman, "I’m this preacher’s wife!" I looked at her and said, "And do you know who I am?" She responded "No."  "Hallelujah," I said, and quickly got up and ran out of the chapel!


Words.  Our words.  What we do with them really matters. As we will see this Sunday morning, we have within us words that build up and words that tear down. If we are going to navigate the Christmas season, especially as it relates to kin, then we must carefully engage our tongues.


Did you know …The average person spends one-fifth of his or her life talking. That number starts to rise when all the relatives get together and start re-swapping Christmas stories from the “Good ole days” … or … pick up old arguments. 


Research suggests that because a woman's vocal cords are shorter than a man's she can actually speak with less effort than he can. Shorter vocal cords not only cause a woman's voice to be more highly pitched, but they also require less air to be expended, making it possible for her to talk more with less energy exerted.


I tell you this just so you women know you already have the inside lane on the communication course.


Words.  Our words.  What we do with them really matters. They have the power to build each other up - and the power to tear each other down. During this past week, if someone put a dollar in one of your hands for every nourishing, healing, lifting word and charged a dollar for every crushing, searing, piercing word – would you have money in your wallet or be in debt? 


According to the scripture, we should all be wealthy!


Mark Twain was on to something when he wrote this: “Speak in such a way that you wouldn't be ashamed to sell the family parrot to the town gossip.”


This message is applicable to everyone – Bring a friend!